Relating in Present Time

By Rose Fitzgerald

Some food for thought . . .

What I have learned in the 45+ years that I have been on this planet is that the “things” that are “real” in life are those which are unseen.  Yes, having the physical manifestations are pleasurable and having money in the bank feels terrific, yet when we strip away all the things that apparently “make us happy”, the absolute only thing that matters in life is the essence of love.  I am not talking romantic love or some version of love that is portrayed in the media.  I am talking about love (peace, harmony, happiness, health) in thy own heart which then gets projected out to the world.  What I have learned is that any time I am not at peace inside of myself, the relations in my life reflect it right back to me.  What I have learned is that when I take responsibility for my inner dissatisfaction, truly get to the core of my unhappiness, I see that the outer manifestation or reflection in my life begins to change, merely because I have shifted my inner world.  What I have also witnessed is that those who are closest to me reflect my inner world with more strength, especially if the inner conflict has been brewing and has been left unresolved.  What I do when this occurs is I ask myself “What am I projecting or pointing a finger at that I need to be looking at more deeply in my own Being?”  If I see that people are being disrespectful to me, I ask “How is it that I can be more respectful to myself?”  If I am wanting my significant other  to step up and be more focused and purposeful, I ask “How is it that I can become more focused and purposeful?” And then I take action.

Ultimately, life as a human is all about our relationship with ourselves.  Everyone else just reflects a part of us.  Some parts that we honor and love and some that we keep shoving under the rug (or deeper into the subconscious), because we cannot accept that we too have these shortcomings.  This aspect of ourselves is called “the shadow”.  I have been working with it a great deal in my own life, as well as, professionally.  What I have witnessed is that once a person accepts and embraces the “not so pleasant” parts of themselves, there is an energetic shift which then results in the outer view changing…almost magically.  In society and in the study of “self-help” there is a strong emphasis on being positive and affirming what we want.  This is all good, however, if we look at the “the whole” of who we are “the shadow” needs to be acknowledged. Not dwelt upon, just acknowledged and accepted–embraced like a hurt child–in order to move forward in life in a “real” way. This is a process that is of the heart (the Soul) not of the head (the Ego).

In this day and age we are witnessing a major planetary/universal shift.  All that has been built by the Ego (masculine) is beginning to crumble ie. the corporate structures, financial systems and religious institutions.  And all that is inspired by the heart (feminine) is becoming more prevalent ie. love, generosity, kindness, forgiveness, warmth, tenderness, intuition, receptivity, open communication.  With that being said, it is very normal for people these days to be feeling unsure, depressed and confused for that which has been the norm is no longer working. Men are having a more difficult time with this shifting because they relate more to the masculine (being in a male body).  The energies of the planet are coming back to balance.  We as individuals are whole.  We have both masculine and feminine aspects.  What has been true on this planet for many, many years is an imbalance of the stronger masculine aspects/practices with a discounting of the feminine.

What is true on the planet today and moving into the future is letting the heart be the captain of our lives and the head the crew person. The work that each individual needs to do to access their own happiness is to go inside their bodies and hearts to find their own truth…to feel the fear and the emotions that have been left unexpressed and acknowledge them. The body reveals a little at a time so that it doesn’t become overwhelming. It is a simple process, yet not always very easy.  It takes a courageous individual to do the work, yet the outcome is completely worth it . . . liberating.

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